I am about to start a big scary new project and I’m feeling a bit anxious about it. Any tips on how I can give myself a kick up the bum and drum up some self-confidence? Most of you sheep seem so self assured…what’s your secret?
Anxious of Wiltshire
The flock have chosen NORAH to answer this question. Having left a neighbouring flock to join the Alfie Purl gang, Norah is very used to getting what she wants!
A big new project – how very exciting! I am all for this. Sometimes, though, it’s hard to get yourself motivated to start something, because you will be worried about what is going to happen. Before I escaped from my old flock, I could see Alfie’s gang over the other side of the ditch, and I knew I wanted to be with them, but I had a tiny lamb and the ditch was deep and filled with fast-running water. It wasn’t until circumstances got worse on my side of the ditch that I realised the time had come. I promised myself at that point that I would never again wait for things to get really bad before I took action. And so it has proved. If I want something, I just go out and get it – and the humans just have to put up with it.
Now. I hear you when you say that you are feeling anxious! And I can totally understand this. Believe me, though, you do not want to live your life without doing exciting things, despite your anxiety. So! I will share with you how I really get my teeth into things, despite being worried about them.
To start with, you have to really really know what it is you want. Spend time on that, really think about it, imagine everything about it. Think about what your life will be like when you achieve this Thing that you want to do. Then, the next thing to do is to take a really good look at where you are right now. How far are you from the Thing that you want to do? Perhaps you are very close to being able to do the Thing, or maybe you are very far away. That doesn’t matter. You have to love the Thing, whatever it is – love it with all your heart, and yearn towards it. You need to want it to exist for its own sake. It is a mistake that humans make sometimes, when they want a Thing because it will make them money, or get them other things. It is harder to bring a Thing into your life if that’s the case.
Loving a Thing like this is very powerful, and you will soon find, once you know the Thing and love it, that you will feel more confident about making it happen. It is a decision you can take every day – do I want this Thing, and what do I need to do in order to bring it into the world today? I generally think about this when I am chewing the cud. You will soon see that there is a path which will take you from where you are now to the place in your life where you have the Thing. If you have totally committed to your project, then you can decide to do the smaller actions which will take you down the path to that Thing. Self-confidence is helpful, but not essential; and I am sometimes not sure what humans mean when they talk about confidence. You might want to ask yourself, if I had a wheelbarrow full of self-confidence, what would I do? And then you can think, well, perhaps if I did one or two of these things, I might GET some self-confidence, and that would help.
By the way, I do not think that having a kick up the bum is at all helpful. It may send you forwards, but it keeps your focus on your bum – not on your goal. It would be much better to imagine your Thing like a huge great big bucket of carrots, that you want to run to as fast as you can.
You must also remember that once you have your Thing, it will need to be looked after and cherished and loved, just like you loved it when it was coming into being. Then it will look after you.
Really, Anxious, love is the answer. I can’t tell you any more than that. We sheep walk the paths we walk, and do the things we do, because we love one another, and we love the land, and the weather, and our humans, and we know how powerful that is.
With much love
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